There are situations where the individual does not feel forgiving at any level and where the only real result of any decision or process would lead only to repression of true feelings.
Instead of the author's formulation, I would propose that, subject only to the requirement that the individual actually has a genuine desire to forgive, the road to forgiveness can be through a decision, or through a process, or through a combination of both. It might also be preferable to consider the principal conceptual distinction as being between whether or not the individual can get past the anger instead of whether or not the individual can forgive the person responsible for it. It seems that the author believes that forgiveness is always possible with the right approach. I would argue that (genuine) forgiveness is not necessarily always possible, regardless of what approach is used. In my opinion, forgiveness is possible (and may very well be optimized through the approaches suggested by the author) whenever the individual experiences a reduction in anger. In that formulation, the key is that anger either subsides or does not subside on its own; it cannot be willed away by a decision, at least not genuinely and at all levels (i.e. unconsciously as well as consciously).
Conceptual Application in Professional and Personal Relationships
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