W. During the meeting, the parents should be given the first opportunity to state their case, with all the reasons for wishing to have a deaf child. I would suggest that Ms.W. bring up the issue of the hearing child by means of questions beginning with phrases such as "Do you think..." Or "How would you feel if..." It is important to open the discussion in a way that will minimize hostility. When Ms.W. feels that the discussion is open and honest, the issue can be discussed at great length and from all angles. Whatever the conclusion of the discussion, if one is indeed reached, the parents should be...

Furthermore, they need to understand that the final choice is with them. They should also be invited to continue the dialog at their convenience if more information is needed or uncertainties arise.
It appears to me that the parents are not truly seeing the issue from all angels, especially as concerns their hearing child. Once they are made aware of all the issues, they should be allowed the right to choose for themselves.

In this way, the most important issue becomes the well-being of all involved rather than just an isolated group of people.