..then put down four qualities for each that you find most offensive" (Chopra 121). He now says to look at the list and for each trait say, "I acted like this when I..." And cautions that this is not to wallow in self-criticism but to reclaim feelings rather than projecting them onto others (Chopra 122). Says Chopra, "when you are able to see yourself in what you hate, you come closer to realizing that you contain everything, as befits a child of spirit" (Chopra 122).
This is certainly easier said than done. What of an abusive parent, an abusive mate, an arrogant boss, or Hitler? Are we to list the qualities that we despise in Hitler and then compare ourselves to that list? True, most self-help books and psychology do claim that people most often project their own flaws and fears onto the people around them, however, it seems that "relative" plays a large part here. How would you compare someone who is assertive and at times aggressive to Hitler? True if one analyzes and condenses the essence there is a correlation, but it is certainly "relative" to the degree to which these qualities are expressed.
When Chopra discusses attachment and karma, there is again a ring of truth. He gives an example:
if I fall in love with you and you spurn me, my longing doesn't just go away. I still feel a karmic bond, despite your rejection, and until you respond or I work through my emotion of unrequited love, karma will bind us together.
Anyone I love in the future will be filtered through the impression you made upon me;
therefore my old karma blocks the entry of any fresh flow of love" (Chopra 193).
Anyone who has been in love has experienced this. And it is true that most often people who are burned in love will shy away from another new relationship or repeat the same scenario of the past and this usually involves trust. According...
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