¶ … reception by the critics. The couples in this novel fear death, and in an attempt to reduce and cover up their fears, they sleep with their married friends, forming a sort of "infidelity cult." "Couples" does not celebrate marriage; it bemoans it. It does not celebrate adultery and infidelity; it shows how it can ruin marriages and lives. This book is more about a changing society, and how religion has given way to sex and a sense of loss. Piet Hanema is a modern man, selfish, self-gratifying, and afraid of death. His actions tear down two marriages, and build up another, indicating that even in infidelity, life, and love, goes on. Some argue that Piet and the other couples are immoral, however, in an ever changing world, their actions are less immoral and more sad, for they cannot be content with what they have, and are always searching for something more, something better, and something that can shield them from the realities of life, such as death.
Updike's classic novel, first published in 1968, is the story of ten couples that live in the tiny town of Tarbox, outside Boston. The small town and the close couples harbor a dark secret. The couples mingle socially with each other, but they also carry on with each other behind their spouses' backs. Central to the story is Piet Hanema, a carpenter and dissatisfied husband who looks for love anywhere he can find it because his wife, Angela, no longer loves him. Piet falls in love with Foxy Whitman when he remodels the Whitman's house. The couples are a bit snobby, a bit *****y, and the product of an upscale small town. The men are professionals, and the wives are bored. Some of them drink too much to drown their sorrows, and some of them, like Piet, have affairs. In another twist, both Foxy and Piet come from "broken" homes. Foxy's parents divorced as soon as Foxy married, and Piet's parents were killed in a car accident, hence his ever-present fear of death. They are both alone, even though they are part of a "couple," and so they reach out to each other. This is another theme of the novel, that even though all of these people are part of a "couple," they are truly alone. They might think they understand each other, but they do not. This is Updike's look at society, and how society is degenerating from a moral and religious society to an amoral and non-religious society.
Updike's style is deceptively simple. At first, the book simply seems to be a narrative of the lives of these diverse couples, but Updike weaves themes and symbols throughout the book, such as the Tarbox Congregational Church, the Kennedy White House, and even Piet's daughter and her hamster. They all represent the precariousness of life. Even JFK is not safe, and his assassination is a major turning point in the book. (Updike actually commented that the Kennedy assassination was the stimulus for writing the book) (DeBellis 122). The death of Kennedy is a turning point in Piet and Foxy's relationship, and not only indicates how important this theme of death and rebirth is to the novel, it reiterates how death can shake a nation, or a person to their core.
Freddy Thorne, the dentist in town is also the "thorn" in the side of many characters. He is abrasive and annoying, but he is also deceptively sharp and to the point. He says at one point, "The funny fact is, you don't get better, and nobody gives a cruddy crap in hell. You're born to get laid and die, and the sooner the better" (Updike 255). Freddy is the "devil" in the story - the anti-hero who makes the other characters think and react, and can read them quite well. He is annoying because he is so critical, but because he is so astute, too. He understands more of what is going on around him more than just about any character, and so, he is the conscience of the book, something that many of the other characters totally lack.
The author states his position quite early in the novel, when he writes, "He thinks we've made a church of each other.' 'That's because he doesn't go to a real church'" (Updike 7). Updike also weaves the Congregational Church throughout the novel, and its burning symbolizes death. It is the very real death of religion in the town, and the death of two marriages. Thus, his two major themes...
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