414). In understanding this idea it becomes clear that a parent must often step back from a situation, away from the explaining and analyzing that adults so often rely on, and understand something just as your child understands it. In attempting to view a situation on the same level as your child, the Kabat-Zinns note that the experience can be far more organic and rewarding. Second, is the concept of apology. The authors note that one should apologize to your child when you have betrayed a trust in even a little way. Apologies are healing and they demonstrate that you see a situation more clearly, or more from your child's point-of-view. But "I'm sorry" loses its meaning if we are always saying it, or if we make regret a habit (Kabat-Zinn, 1998, p. 415). So often, parents stray away from placing the blame on themselves and make the mistake of disciplining a child out of frustration for their own parental actions. In noting this fact, the authors allow parents a guide for dealing with these situations in a manner that is honest and forthright, in order to not only earn a child's respect and trust, but establish a good rapport for future instances...
So often, in discussing parenting, do individuals turn to "the books," which are often a series of "scientifically-proven" ways to raise a healthy and happy child. In reading this book, it is clear to see that the task of raising a child is not a scientific one, but an organic one that should depend on the mind and actions of the parent far greater than the structured actions suggested by authors and doctors. Authors Jon and Myla Kabat-Zinn help parents get back to basics in terms of parenting, which not only helps parents truly know their children, but begin to fully know themselves as well.Everyday Use by a. Walker Order Alice Walker There have and are well-known authors that literature students are introduced to and discussed because of the intensity, reasons, persona, and literary devices that the authors add to works they publish. Using writing techniques, like Alice Walker has done in "Everyday Use" she originally wrote in 1973, she sets the scene from a place in her time when she was living life and facing
Instead, Wangero continues to only see that her name is a reminder that African-Americans were denied their authentic names. "I couldn't bear it any longer, being named after the people who oppress me" (53). Walker is not by any means condemning the Black Power movement when she challenges Wangero's viewpoint. Instead, she is questioning that part of this movement that does not acknowledge and, more importantly, respect the scores of
Dee is not interested in family history; she is interested in making an artistic statement. The discussion of the butter churn is merely a prelude to the big event over the quilts. The quilts are sewn together of fabrics from ancestors' clothing. This association makes them important reminders of family to Maggie and Mama. However, these two see the practical or everyday value of the items as well. Mama intends
Everyday Use by Alice Walker The thematic richness of "Everyday Use" is made possible by the perceptive, and flexible voice of the first-person narrator. It is the mother's viewpoint that permits the reader to understand both Dee and Maggie. Seen from a distance, both young women seem stereotypical - one a smart but rather ruthless college girl, the other a sweet but ineffectual homebody. The close scrutiny of the mother redeems
However what the older generation knew about the worth of heritage had somehow escaped the youth. The elders felt that adoption of culture and heritage made more sense when it had an impact on a person's way of thinking and their lifestyle. Dee, with a more modern approach towards heritage, felt an identity based on it could be adopted with the adoption of 'things' connected with her ancestors' culture. For
The solid fact that Sister has remained a fixture in the house and should have the greater claim to her mother's attention is dazzled away by the return of Stella-Rondo. The mother's indecision and vacillation is somewhat comic as she continues to insist that "I prefer to take my children's word for anything when it's humanly possible" (5). Deciding which child to believe is her character's conflict. Because Welty
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